10 things to remember

1. Whether it's a family member, somebody at work, or your best
friend who's hurt you badly, put yourself in their shoes and treat
them the way you would want to be treated, even if they don't deserve
it.

2. If you've heard something you didn't want to be hear,
remember it may not be 100% true. So lighten up. If it's not urgent,
put off thinking about it for a couple of days. Forgive the person
who wronged you; don't forget, you're doing this for yourself, too.
Prove to yourself that you can practice what you believe. Try to be
as understanding of others as you would want them to be of you.

3. There will always be losers and winners. Act according to how
you want to feel about yourself when all is said and done. Don't
judge what others do if you don't want them to judge you.

4. Remember, what other people do is their responsibility. Don't
let them cause you to carry a grudge and let their actions weigh you
down. They are not responsible for your actions, no matter what they
do. You are.

5. If someone has said something untrue about you or done
something intentionally to hurt you, wish good things for that
person – even if you don't feel like it. Ask for them what you desire
for yourself, and it will draw those things to you.

6. If you've made a mistake or disappointed yourself or others,
apologize quickly and earnestly; that's all you can do. Let your
remorse teach you how to have compassion for others when they make
mistakes. Nobody's perfect, even though we all try to be. If someone
can't accept your apology, that's okay, too. Just do the right thing
and go on.

7. Talk less and listen more; you could learn something about
others and about yourself. If you feel like yelling, go outside and
throw rocks on the cement instead. Take a walk or, better yet, sing…
it will put a melody back in your life.

8. If you think someone is making fun of you or someone you
love, disarm them, not with your fist, but with your best smile. Give
them something they don't know how to give. Speak to them; be bold.
Ask that they be blessed and you'll be blessed, too. Forgiveness is a
powerful thing; it will help your body and soul. Don't let anyone
cause you to act they way they've acted toward you, and remember that
they have a right to do whatever they choose also.

9. Don't hide your hurts and pains and feelings inside where
they will harden your heart. Use common sense and understanding to
process them. Don't react just from your feelings; respond with
maturity rather than childish habit. You won't regret it.

10. Get in touch with the person you want to be and become that.
Listen to your heart… you can find the answer there to every question
you have. Remember, no matter how you're treated, just treat others
the way you would want to be treated when your feelings are getting
trampled on.